SSIS advice column

January 31, 2020

Welcome back to the SSIS column, where we answer any and all of Brandeis students’ questions about sex, sexuality, identity, and relationships. If you have a question you’d like answered in our next column, email or leave a question in the Google Form link on the Student Sexuality Information Service Facebook page. Any and all questions are welcome: there are no bad, stupid, or weird questions! 

(Note: These answers are good-faith attempts by SSIS to be helpful to the Brandeis community, and are by no means exhaustive or to be taken as universal. If these answers don’t resonate with you, either pay them no mind, or reach out to us with suggestions for improvement!)

What are some secret blow job tips?

Thanks for writing to SSIS! This is a great question. First of all, different techniques and types of stimulation feel different depending on the person, so it’s always important to ask your partner(s) what they prefer. When giving a blowjob, it helps to be familiar with the main erogenous zones of the penis. These are the head, the shaft, the testes and the perineum. 

The head of the penis, also known as the glans or tip, has many sensitive nerve endings both in the urethral opening, the hole at the top where pee and semen come from, and in the frenulum, the ridge of tissue connecting the head of the penis to the shaft. These organs generally respond to quick, light pressure and rubbing, which can be done using a finger or tongue. 

The shaft of the penis is the part of the penis that adds length. The shaft responds to pressure, especially up and down pressure. This pressure can be applied using the hand or throat, and the amount and direction of pressure are different for everyone, so it’s always important to ask.

The testes, or the ball sac, generally respond to light pressure and light pulling, which again can be done using the hand or tongue. 

The perineum, the tissue connecting the testes to the anus, is a great way to externally stimulate the prostate. The prostate responds to pressure and movement, which often require the use of fingers or lips. To locate the prostate, apply pressure to the softer and fleshier part of the perineum, toward the back. You may not be able to feel the gland, but communication with your partner may help you determine if you have found the prostate. 

You can also play around with different speeds and levels of pressure. For example, you can start slowly and lightly and tease your partner a little bit before building up to more pressure and faster speeds. Showing that you’re into it and having fun will likely turn your partner on as well! And don’t forget—the wetter the better! Use lots of saliva or lube to keep things nice and slippery! 

Regardless of what part of the penis you are stimulating, remember to check in with your partner—they know their body best! Additionally, make sure to check in with your own body and how you are feeling throughout.

We hope this helps!

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