SSIS Advice Column

October 9, 2020

Welcome back to the SSIS column, where we answer any and all of Brandeis students’ questions about sex, sexuality, identity and relationships. If you have a question you’d like answered in our next column, email or leave a question in the Google Form link on the Student Sexuality Information Service Facebook page. Any and all questions are welcome: there are no bad, stupid or weird questions! 

(Note: These answers are good-faith attempts by SSIS to be helpful to the Brandeis community and are by no means exhaustive or to be taken as universal. If these answers don’t resonate with you, either pay them no mind or reach out to us with suggestions for improvement!)

Are you still selling products this semester? (Fall 2020)

Yes, we are still selling products! SSIS has a few methods of selling products this semester. First, the SSIS office is open! We have reconfigured our office layout and procedures in accordance with safety protocols to prevent the spread of the coronavirus. Our office hours are posted on the SSIS Facebook and Instagram pages and we are open by appointment, so feel free to check those out and come in to purchase any of our products! Next, and new to SSIS this semester, is our online pre-ordering system! Find the form on the SSIS Facebook or Instagram page, fill out your order and we will have it ready for you by the Monday following your order placement, or by appointment if you text us. You can pay when you pick up your order in the SSIS office. Feel free to text us with any questions about buying products at: 586-ASK-SSIS!

I need help making a sexy times playlist. Suggestions?

We are so glad you asked this question! Curating your own can help control the mood during intimate moments, but, if you’re interested, SSIS actually makes Spotify playlists called the Super Sexy Intimate Songs that we send out in our monthly newsletter! In addition to the SSIS playlist, there are plenty of sexy playlists out there you can find online.

When making a sexy times playlist, finding a good balance between songs that hint at intimate moments and explicit songs about sex can help build tension and get you and your partner(s) in the mood, depending on what feels right for you. For example, it could be very unideal to just be warming up and have a really intense banger start playing in the background. You can determine the intensity of a song depending on its lyrics and background. 

Figuring out what type of mood you want to go for and curating songs around that can be a good way to navigate creating a personalized playlist! Some genres often used in sexy playlists are R&B, jazz, indie and pop. A good way to organize a playlist can be to have slower songs at the beginning and then alternate between more explicit songs and more dream-like/softer vibey songs. Also, something to note is that you can make your playlist private on Spotify, so just you and your partner(s) can see it. 

Happy playlist making!

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