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Ask SSIS: Watching porn with a partner

My partner asked me if I would be into watching porn with them as a form of foreplay. How do we have a conversation about what I want? 

 

Discussions regarding pornography can be difficult, because porn preferences or interests are very personal. Similarly, foreplay preferences can be very personal and specific to your needs and wants. So although the conversation may be tricky to start or feel daunting, talking with your partner about both of your tastes could be beneficial to the pleasure of everyone involved. 

That being said, it may be helpful for you to do some personal reflection on your boundaries regarding bringing porn into you and your partner’s intimate moments. Is this something you are okay with? Are there certain types of porn you prefer to stay away from, or conversely, are there certain types of porn that make you really excited? Is there a type of porn you like the best? Audio porn? Written? This reflection is something that your partner could do as well.

Once you have determined your own wants, conducting an open conversation with your partner is the next step. It may be helpful for each partner to each have a few moments to simply talk about what you both have reflected upon, without interruption or questions. Then, the conversation can be opened up to a dialogue of compromise, establishing boundaries as a partnership or worries and fears. In the end, introducing a new element into your intimate life should be fun and exciting, and as long as there is full consent from everyone involved, trying new experiences can make intimacy more pleasurable.

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